A Good Parent point #4…


A Good Parent …

4.is the grownup not a friend.

This is a big one. Who is the grownup in this parenting thing you’re involved in? The answer better be and stay you.

Too many times I have seen a mother (usually it’s Mom) say something like this. “My Suzy is my best friend” or “The kids and I are best buddies”.

It all sounds so cute and adorable but somebody has to wear the big boy pants and lay down the law and set standards and rules. A parent has to be the bad guy sometimes. We set rules, dole out consequences and sometimes are not liked by our kiddos.

It is difficult to tell your best friend to take out the trash or they have to be by ten. The parents are the ones with the wisdom and knowledge that they impart to their children. Part of the wisdom and knowledge is teaching your kids how to be a grown up. Grownups are not kids. You guessed it kids are not grownups.

Even when your kids are tall enough to look you in the eye and have hair on their chins they are still your kids. The dynamic changes but you are still Mom and Dad.

Be the grown up and all that comes with it, be a parent.

Here’s the whole list:

A good parent…


  1. Is available.
  2. Is loving but firm.
  3. Is willing to ask for help.
  4. Is the grownup not a friend.
  5. Loves without conditions.
  6. Is consistent.
  7. Has a plan.
  8. Takes care of their kids needs, they know their kids needs.
  9. Celebrates success and doesn’t hold to hurts and mistakes.
  10. Is not afraid to admit mistakes and move on.