Good Grandparents #5

5. Is wise.

Being wise carries a picture of an old man or women spouting off wise riddles that everyone is supposed to be amazed by. Sounds great but much of the time the younger generation thinks they know it all already. But that doesn’t get you off the hook from this wisdom thing. You must seek wisdom. That means learn from your life and mistakes and form some answers to life from your years. It also means you have to create an open personal space that allows people to seek your advice and wisdom. So don’t go around telling everyone with hearing what’s wrong or right. Don’t ever say “Well in my day blah, blah, blah”. This is your day; most people don’t want the stories. They want you here and now with whatever is on hand. Be approachable. Be the kind of person that people seek out. When you are sought out, be wise.

Here is the entire list:

A good grandparent

  1. Is first a good parent.
  2. Is part of the family system.
  3. Is a refuge for the kids and parents.
  4. Respects the parent’s rules.
  5. Is wise.
  6. Is not afraid to be playful.
  7. Takes the time to listen
  8. Doesn’t give advice unless it is sought
  9. Asks questions
  10. Has a piece of candy in their purse or pocket