Start Dating Again
Yes, I mean it, married couples need to date. When was the last time you set apart a night just for the two of you? I mean got away for a while and spent a little romantic couple time. The last date was probably a long time ago. I counsel couples and that is one of the first questions I ask. Why? Because everything, everything gets in the way of you being together. Jobs, kids, tiredness and stress are just a few of the things that cause you to grow further apart. It is not supposed to be that way, really. This thing that you publically committed to, your marriage, should always be first in your mind and heart. I know it isn’t the same as when you were first married, you have both changed. But if you renew yourself through dating the change in you can and will be for the better.
When I am talking about dating I am not talking about anything big. You don’t have to rent a tux and have a limo on hand. Go out to our local eateries. Take a picnic to the park, yes an evening picnic. It doesn’t have to be expensive. An ice cream cone and a nice walk will do in a pinch. The point is you have to commit to time together. Make it part of your schedule. Why do this, because your relationship needs it. You are your spouse’s best friend and support. You want time set apart for your best friend don’t you? Talk, plan, dream and communicate your heart during this together time. You were together first when you married and you will be together when the kids grow up. The only way that you will be a success at this thing is if you put in the effort to make it work. So get out there and date again just like the old days. It will be a great thing to look forward to in all the humdrum of daily life. It will revive you, and your love for your partner.