Your Head is not made for Hitting against a Wall. Part Two
So when do you decide to stop?
- When the pain is far too great to handle.
There are all kinds of pain. If you are getting physically hurt in a relationship, get help and get out. You do not deserve to be part of abuse any form of abuse.
- When the choice has already been made for you by someone or some circumstance.
There are times when “something” has changed and you have no choice but to move on. If your house burns down you have to move. Someone in your life or world may have made a choice that makes it impossible to go on.
- When all the avenues have been explored.
You have to look around and see if there is another way of going about things. You have to spend some time to see if there are options in the situation. Take a deep breath and step back for a better look at things. But understand that there are only so many of dealing with this situation and if you have done your best to explore all the avenues then maybe it’s time to move on.
- You have sought wise counsel.
The key here is “wise” counsel. Talk to your pastor, go to counseling, if you have to talk to a lawyer but get a professionals view of things.
Yes talk to friends and family. But understand they may have a slanted view of things and may be emotionally involved. Seek out a neutral opinion of what’s happening to you. Don’t get caught up in the “he said, she said” rat race.
There is a point when the wall will win and it is up to you to decide when the time to stop hitting your head against it is.
Frank Walker LMFT
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