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Technology is constantly changing and it is difficult to keep up with it as a parent. But establishing some basic rules in your life and the electronic life of your family is important to establish.
We now have all these gadgets that keep us moving along. E-mail, texting, Facebook, etc, etc.
It’s all about being in contact 24/7. But sometimes when we get an email or text we get confused and frustrated. We don’t understand why the text was sent or what the senders are even trying to say.
Miscommunication happens all the time. Have you ever sent a text and out it went and oops, “I didn’t mean that”? But it’s gone out to the world. So much of our intent is lost with our gadget messaging.
So here are some ideas for manners on our devices. These are great ideas that you should take to heart before during and after you text, email, pin or whatever you do on your devices.
- Wait 24 hours
I know, I know you want to send something right back and fast. But try this, wait a day to think through your response.
This is especially important if there is a relationship involved. Wait think things through make sure you won’t regret your words the next day.
Remember texts and emails have a life of their own. They could come back to haunt you.
- Try not to respond in anger.
If you are mad or angered don’t blow up on-line. Online is not the best way to respond when feelings are involved.
The best thing you can do if there is a relationship problem is to get some face to face time. Why? Because you can really see what a person is trying to say in person. There is no guessing or interpreting involved.
The next best thing is to talk on the phone. But face to face is the best way to deal with emotional stuff, really.
- Make time for real conversation.
Sorry but life is all about human contact. Texting is quick and easy but it will never be the same as that good old being in the same room and talking kind of thing.
It’s easy to ignore people or brush them off on-line.
You don’t want that to happen to you so don’t do it to others. It’s that golden rule stuff.
4. Put your name on everything.
Don’t hide behind some anonymous screen name. Be up-front about who really you are.
All this media stuff is about communication so be honest about who you are and what you really want to say.
Your name gives your media communication integrity and opens doors to further talk.
- Take the time.
Yes, all these devices make things fast and easy.
But they really can’t replace the eye ball to eye ball stuff we need to have to really communicate.
These gadgets are a tool to use for good. Make sure that your manners on-line are as good as you can be.
Adapted from Tracey Bianchi, Christ Church of Oak Brooks, Ill.
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